Here’s a dilemma that defines the phrase, “Be careful what you wish for.” In the “Men’s Health” “SexPlain It” section, a man calling himself “Undesirable” reached out to Zachary Zane for help on his open relationship predicament. Here’s the issue…
He and his wife met in college, and she was a virgin.
They’ve been married for eleven years.
After COVID, they decided that an “open marriage” would be just the ticket for both of them…as they both were craving other bodies.
Since then, though, he hasn’t gotten extracurricular booty once, and she’s having no problems at all getting “dates.”
Now, he’s feeling unattractive, self-conscious, and full of regret.
Zane’s perspective? Going back to monogamy is probably out of the question but “swinging” together might be worth a shot. Also, taking the Tinder route, like he’s been doing, isn’t the best play. Instead, he should try apps that are more focused on “open relationships.” It’s there he’ll find a more like-minded crowd.
Open relationships always sound great to a guy when they first come up. The reality, however, is that women are going to almost always have more success than guys in this realm…and you’re in for a major ego-check if you think that just simply opening the relationship is a winning ticket to the poontang lottery. Most importantly, however, is to remember there’s still a marriage going on, and that needs to be nurtured above all.
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